
Times have changed, but some things always stay the same. Prom night has been synonymous with getting laid since caveman donned their best animal skins to impress their dates. The media (movies in particular) has gone a long way in promoting the concept that the prom and sex go together like PB&J. But this is one of the rare times when I'll cut the media some slack. I remember my dad talking about his prom night (not a comfortable conversation), and the media didn't have quite the influence when my dad was a teen that it does now.
So what's all the fuss about having sex after the prom? I'm talking to the young ladies out there of course, because we all know young men don't need any special reason to have sex. Here comes my disclaimer for those girls out there ready to jump all over me because of the double standard in this country when it comes to sex. Women have every right to engage in as much sex as men do. Do they run the risk of being labeled a slut? Of course. Is this fair? No, but this is the society we live in. Because of these societal norms that have been created through the years we live in a world that expects teenage boys to engage in as much sex as is humanly possible, yet expect teenage girls to remain virgins until at least college, and if possible marriage. This equation just doesn't add up. We either have a mass of teenage boys walking around with severely calloused hands, or white weddings really are a myth.
Throw out the double standard for a second. Most young ladies are taught to be more responsible than the young men out there. The simple reason for this is that men can not get pregnant. (without surgery that is) It is the woman that has to bear most of the emotional and all of the physical issues that come with unplanned, out-of-wedlock pregnancies. Because of this it seems that society has left the responsibility of sex entirely up to the woman. Is this fair? No, but it is true. To prove my point just look at the amount of single mothers as opposed to single fathers. When it comes to sex men like to chalk everything up to genetics. Supposedly we are predisposed to want to spread our seed with as many partners as possible. This is where the saying, "The little head tells the big head what to do." comes from. I'll admit that most men ages 13 to 30 have baby batter on the brain most of the time, but this doesn't mean we are mindless zombies who throw all reason out the window when blood rushes to a certain part of our anatomy.
So, getting back to sex on prom night. We have the oversexed male thinking it's an even money shot that he's getting laid on prom night, even though his date has an impeccable reputation as a young lady. We have a young lady who is feeling all sorts of pressure because it's prom night and she's been dating this guy for most of her senior year, and she is pretty sure he thinks tonight is the night. She likes him, but is not sure she is ready to take the next step with him. What to do, what to do? This is the crux of what I'm talking about. We all know there are couples in high school that have engaged in sexual intercourse before the prom, so having sex on prom night isn't a big deal. I'm talking about the girl who hasn't had sex with her current boyfriend or date to the prom, and even more importantly let's say she's a virgin. Yes people there are still plenty of virgins left in high school. The big question is does she give "IT" up?
The simple solution to answering this question is to take the prom out of the situation. If it wasn't prom night would you be willing to cross that line with this person? When I say this people always want to start in on how the prom is a special event in a person's life. It's a night of memories and spending time with the people you care most about at the end of your high school career. It can be all these things without having sex. The pressure on our young ladies to have sex on prom night can ruin all these memories they're supposed to be creating. Proms are no longer about the prom, but what happens after. In some communities the prom has turned into long weekends where high school students rent out seedy motels and play "house". Last time I checked you need a credit card and have to be over 21 to rent a hotel room. (wake up parents) Some proms are held at hotel banquet halls and the hotel rooms are then booked by the students. I've had parents tell me this is acceptable because their daughters are rooming with other girls. (Yeah right.) We are giving life to the saying, "Off like a prom dress."
I know I sound like a prude. I'm certainly not against premarital sex, and a woman can certainly do what she wants with her body. (as long as she's old enough according to her state's statutory consent laws) All I'm saying is there are girls out there who should not be overwhelmed about having sex just because it's prom night.